A Life Is Still A Life

This post is speacially dedicated to z55 and unknown visitor, who left comments in my chat box and also to all the people out there who think that 1 month old embryo is not a human, thus has no life.

The Human Embryo

Week 1-3 5-7 days after fertilization, the blastula attaches to the wall of the uterus (endometrium). When it comes into contact with the endometrium it performs implantation. Implantation connections between the mother and the embryo will begin to form, including the umbilical cord. The embryo's growth centers around an axis, which will become the spine and spinal cord. The brain, spinal cord, heart, and gastrointestinal tract begin to form.

Week 4-5 Chemicals produced by the embryo stop the woman's menstrual cycle. Neurogenesis is underway, showing brain activity at about the 6th week.[citation needed] The heart will begin to beat around the same time. Limb buds appear where the arms and legs will grow later. Organogenesis begins. The head represents about one half of the embryo's axial length, and more than half of the embryo's mass. The brain develops into five areas. Tissue formation occurs that develops into the vertebra and some other bones. The heart starts to beat and blood starts to flow.

Source: Wikipedia

At week 1-3, the baby's heart and brain have started to form and you still say that it doesn't have a life yet?

So to you guys, if one couple is yet ready to become a parents, they should just abort it so that they baby won't end up in the orphanage in the future. My question is, if one is not ready to become a parents, not ready to take responsibility, not ready to commit him/herself to a child, then why have sex in the first place? You knew that wearing condom, taking the pills, etc are only 99% effective, why take that 1% risk? Why not have sex when you are finally ready to become a parent? Why?

You took the risk, whatever happens you should take it like a man and not run and hide from the problem. You can't murder a person and then run away because you don't want to be imprisoned. And you knew that you can't run far because sooner or later you'll going to be caught. Same theory goes to aborting the baby. You took the easy way out now, but sooner or later, your action will come back and haunt you. There's no need to tell you how dangerous and how badly it's gonna effect the girl, both physically and mentally and the process of abortion as all of you already knew it pretty clearly.

And I want to declare something here. Raising a child is not as hard what you all think if you are hardworking and determined enough. I have a child myself, and so far, eventhough life is a bit teeny harder compare to before I have a baby, me and husband still managed to cope with our peanuts salary. And all our hardworks pay off when we see our baby smile when we hold him. No money in the world can buy such happiness.

I'm not saying that one should rush into having a baby but since you've are already pregnant, why don't you just keep it?

Those who say that they can't keep the baby because they have financial problems are nothing but a bunch of irresponsible humans who can't think of any better excuse to run away from their responsibility. If you are really poor until you have problem with finding money to feed yourself 2 meals a day, then like I said, WHY YOU WANNA HAVE SEX THEN?

Conclusion is, those who chose abortion as an exit to your problems are all cowards. Not to be mean, but deep in my heart I really hope that something bad happen to you due to this. I really do. Seriously.

P/S: Please don't involve in any sexual intercourse if you are not ready to have a child, masturbate instead.

A Life Is Gonna End Soon

It now 3.09am in the morning when I am typing this. Tears were streaming down from my eyes while I was typing this entry.

And it is because I had just found out that an unmarried couple had made a decision to abort their 1 month old embryo because they think that it's the best for everyone. Please proceed to the link to read about their story.

http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/973476

I do not know the Thread Starter (TS) and I do not know who his gf is. But my heart somehow feel the pain and I feel really uneasy that they are gonna end the life of their own child soon. The embryo is now 1 month as I had mentioned earlier. 1 month old. As I told them in the forum, in 2-3 months, the embryo is going to form in a human shape and after that the wife will be able to feel the embryo's movement in her tummy already.

The boyfriend said, it's for the best because they are not financially stable enough to have this baby. And the gf's mother is right now very ill and is she is to find out that her daughter is pregnant, she would have a stroke and die.

I said, these are all lame excuses to get out of this problem easily. I told them, they have yet tell her mother about it, why are they so sure that her mother is gonna react like how they thought she would be? There are 50-50 chances that her mother will end up very happy because she's gonna be a grandmother soon.

I told him, financial problem. They still have 8 months to work and save for the baby. Aren't 8 months enough?? They just need to save RM600 each month and by the time the wife is due to give birth, they already have RM4.8K in the bank. And if the husband is willing to work harder, they can even save more than that.

I told him, if one is hardworking and determined enough, nothing is impossible when it comes to finding a job. Think about it, even those handicappeds are able to secure a job in the current economy.

I told him, abortion does not only affect her gf/wife's health but she will also be mentally effected. And that she is at risk of not conceiving at all after she does it. Isn't it harder to tell her mom this,

"Auntie, I'm sorry but your daughter will not be able to conceive anymore because she had once did an abortion. You have no chance to become a grandmother anymore."

compare to,

"Auntie, you are going to be a grandmother soon! Your daughter is pregnant and we are going to get married soon!"

I really hope that both he and his gf/wife reconsider their decision.

I would like via this entry to ask for help.

If you are reading this and you are Lowyat.net's member, please click on that link and advise him to reconsider their decision. Tell them anything so that they face this problem like an adult and not being a coward. Tell them whatever stories that you've heard of regarding abortion.

If you are not a member, please sign up and leave them a comment too. It only takes less than 10 minutes for the registration.

Please help me to change their mind.

Here is the link again,

http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/973476

Baby Is Now 2 Months Old!

I'm happy to announce that my baby is now 2 months old. =) And I've becoming a full time mom for almost a month and I'm still enjoying it very much. Every week, I'll dread on going to work during the weekends. On Friday, I'll be grumbling on why weekdays have to end so fast!?!?! Saturday, for me is like Monday now.

Every morning during the weekend, I'll feel very heavy hearted to go to work and leave my baby at home. Although Fire is taking good care of him while I'm at work, I'm still worry about this and that. Worry if he's hungry or not? Worry if he's sleeping well or not? Worry if he misses his mommy or not?

I'll keep asking Fire "Is baby sleeping?" "How's baby?" over and over again. And everytime Fire tell me that baby is crying non-stop, my heart will shattered. And at that moment I'll feel like rushing back home to cuddle my baby. I miss him so much at home.

I finally understand how does a mother feels when she has to be apart from her child. Unfortunately, as our cost of living continues to rise, many parents have to leave their child at someone's care so that they can go to work. Some have no choice but to stay a few hundreds kilometres away and only visit their child once a month.

I have almost became one of them. Our initial plan was to send our baby to my mom in Penang so that I could go to work. And since me and Fire do not trust anyone else to take care of our baby, this is our only option. And at that time, due to some personal reasons, my mom didn't want to stay with us in KL.

So previously, everytime I think about being apart from my baby, I'll cry.

Eventhough, sending baby to mom in Penang means I would have more freedom to go anywhere. I can continue to hang out with friends until late. Traveling with Fire. But all these fun cannot be compare to the fun of cuddling my little baby. I told Fire that, for baby, I'm willing to sacrifice my freedom.

When I first found out that I am pregnant, I've prepared to sacrifice all the fun. Because I can still go out and have fun when my baby has grown up. And that time, I can bring him together wherever I go. :) But now that baby is still so small, I would want to spend all my time with him and going to the honeymoon is the last thing that I wanna do now.

But I guess the God loves me very much because after all the crying, my mom had finally told me that she will come over and stay with us in order to take care of baby. That means, not only I can cuddle my baby everyday, I'll have my mom with me everyday too.

Ahh~ I feel like the luckiest woman girl in the world right now. ♥

Inhuman Doings!

TELUK BAHANG - Kehadiran sekumpulan burung gagak yang mengerumuni sesuatu di tepi jalan Batu Feringghi berdekatan kawasan Pulau Asmara di sini bukanlah asing bagi tukang sapu Majlis Perbandaran Pulau Pinang (MPPP), T. Verappa, 36.

Namun, semalam dia berasa tidak sedap hati lalu berpatah balik untuk melihat apa yang sebenarnya dikerumuni oleh kumpulan gagak tersebut.

Mengejutkan, kumpulan gagak itu sedang mematuk mayat seorang bayi yang masih bertali pusat dalam keadaan tertiarap di sebatang longkang di situ.

"Walaupun saya sudah terlajak kira-kira 100 meter dari tempat itu, tapi saya berasa lain macam pula sebab jumlah burung itu terlalu banyak.

"Saya hampir pengsan apabila mendapati benda yang dikerumuni itu merupakan mayat seorang bayi lelaki yang cukup sifat," katanya ketika di temui semalam.

Menurut Verappa, ketika kejadian pada pukul 10.30 pagi itu, dia baru selesai menyapu sampah di kawasan berhampiran.

*Click at the source if you want to see the picture of the baby lying face down on the road. Very heart wrenching.

Source: http://www.kosmo.com.my/kosmo/content.asp?y=2009&dt=0305&pub=Kosmo&sec=Negara&pg=ne_03.htm

I think most of you had read about this heart wrenching news yesterday.

Eventhough I do not know this person, but my heart ache whenever I see the picture of that poor baby's body thrown by the roadside.

I don't understand, how could a person (or two) be so cruel and mean to be able to do such thing to their own baby? How could a person turned so heartless or maybe my husband is right, they have no heart at all. If they knew that they do not want the baby at the first place, why don't they just abort it instead of doing such inhuman thing.

How could a mother do this to her own child after 9 months of having him in her womb? How could a mother do this to her own child after going through so much pain during labor? A lot of questions pinning in my mind looking for answers on how could a mother do things that even animals wouldn't do.

I wonder how they feel when they found out that the body of their baby had been surrounded by crows. I wonder how they feel looking at the picture of their child lying helplessly on the ground. Do they feel a thing? Or the only feeling they have now is fear? Fear of being caught?

As they say, abortion is a sin but doing this is even worst than abortion. They bring a life into this world and then kill it in such inhuman way.

Why can't they leave the poor child at a temple, mosque or something instead of throwing him away like that? Or maybe give him away as I'm sure many childless couple out there who wanted children very much but could have it.

Sigh~ I really don't know what to say anymore but I believe in KARMA, may whoever that did this gets the punishments that they deserve. The God is up there watching what they do.