I Realised..

Looking at my baby is like looking at myself when I was a baby. And it made me realised that..

When we were a baby,

when we were frightened, we looked for our mom
when we felt lonely, we cried for our mom
when we want someone to talk to, we called for our mom
when we were hungry, no, there were no hungry moments for baby because every mother will feed the baby on time
when we were sleepy, mom's cradle is the most comfortable "bed" ever
when we were sick, mom were there 24/7 to make sure that we are ok
when our mom is not at sight, we cried looking for our mom

As we became an adult,
when we were frightened, we looked for our boyfriend
when we felt lonely, we called our boyfriend on the phone and talk for hours
when we want someone to talk to, we go online to look for friends
when we are hungry, we get our mom to cook for us
but when our mom is hungry, we ask her to go buy her own food because we are busy "Facebooking"
when we were sleepy, we just sleep
when our mom is not at sight, we are relieved because no one there to nag us

Have you ever ponder upon this?

And for the first time, this song bring tears to my eyes because every single word sang is true...

090226 On Being A Fulltime Mother

Today is the 5th day of us taking care of our baby on our own as my mom had gone back to Penang last Saturday.

By the way, we have our baby's Fullmoon ceremony in Sri Lanka Buddhist Temple, Sentul. Instead of shaving my precious head bald, the monk cut a few strands of baby's hair instead because that was his first doing it and he was quite scared about shaving a baby's head too. If he's scared, we are even more scared. Hahahaha..

Back to being a fulltime mom. After my mom left, I began to really feel like a mom and an adult. Before this, I relied on my mom a lot. She bathed my baby, cleaned the house, cook while hubby did the laundry. All I did was to feed the baby and clean the dishes after eating it. Sometimes mom and hubby will do it too. Hahaha.

And all these while when mom was around, she's the one calming my baby whenever he cried. She's the one who cleaned baby's backside when he poo poo-ed. All I did was watching what my mom was doing. Watch and learn. =)

And now, I'm taking over all of it. Hahaha..

Saturday and Sunday was okay because Fire was around to help me taking care of the baby.

But last Monday was really challenging. I have to take care of baby all by meself alone. :S And I made a mistake by doing laundry that day. I end up having backache, waist ache, shoulder ache, tummy wound ache and headache at night. Luckily Fire gave me a massage before I went to bed.

Tuesday onwards was a bit better as I learnt not to do anything but paying 100% attention to my baby ONLY. Wednesday comes and it's getting even better.

And finally today, I feel like I've conquered my task being a mom. :P Besides taking care of my precious, I've even cleaned the house. Ngek ngek ngek.

To future mother out there, it's actually not much work to take of the little baby. All you need to do are bath, feed him on time, cradle him to sleep and clean after his poopoo. But one task need some time to complete it. But when you got used to it, it's pretty easy. ^^ Get your husband to help you out with the laundry and washing the pots and pans after you cook. You'll actually enjoy becoming a fulltime housewife very much. I'm enjoying it now. Hehehe

One of the weird thing is, when my mom was around, waking up for midnight feed seems like a dread. I always woke up with swollen eyes and sleepy face. But now, my body and mind will be alert everytime it's time for feeding. Sometimes I'll be still wide awake after feeding my baby during the midnight.

After these few days, I've hesitated to pass my baby to my mom in Penang so that I can work fulltime. I wanted to take care of my baby by myself. I hope that when the time comes, some miracle happen so that I'll be able to do so. Or else, I can only see my boy once or twice per month. I want to see and hold him everyday... :(

Lastly, do trust me, it may not be easy but once you got used to it, it's a lot of fun. And watching your child smile and sleep in your cradle is like I don't know how to describe. In short, I would sacrifice or my social activities and shopping just to take care of my baby at home.

Signs That Your Marriage Is In Jeopardy

1. When you find talking to your spouse is harder than talking to a stranger.

2. When you find it more enjoyable talking your heart out with someone else, preferably friends of the opposite gender.

3. When you find masturbating is more enjoyable than sex itself.

4. When you feel like sleeping with a stranger when you are sleeping with your spouse.

5. When you rather sleep on the floor or in the living room than to sleep with your spouse.

6. When your children are the only thing that matters to you.

7. When you constantly think about your spouse's flaws.

8. When you no longer see eye to eye and constantly find faults with your spouse.

9. When you secretly think of having an affair with another person.

10. When you dread of going home after work.

I often ponder on one question. How could a marriage break when both husband and wife love each other dearly before they signed the papers? (except the arranged marriage of course) Are people nowadays harder to please therefore the divorce rate these days are higher than those in the previous generation. We've our grandparents celebrating their 50th, 70th and some to the 90th wedding anniversary but how many of the younger generations these days are able to maintain their marriage until this long?

For me, the appearance of a third party in the marriage is the major cause of divorce. I really hate it when girls who obviously knew that the guy they are with are married but still refused to let go because of their selfishness. And some of these husband snatchers are pretty young girls that have a lot of guys going after them. But why? Why of all men in the world they have to choose someone who is married?

They say. "Married Men Are More Charming" But excuse me, before they were married, they were also singles men. Why don't they marry the single guys and make them charming?

Other than that, I despised married men who have close relationship with their female friends without any boundaries. These men are really selfish beast that never think about the feelings of his wife. And some go to the extend of being there for his "female friend" everytime she's having a problem. Hello, you are just a friend no matter how close you two are. If you wanna be so nice to her, why don't you just marry her instead in the first place?

And yeah, I ponder upon this question too. "Why men tie themselves into a marriage when they still wanna fool around?"

Can someone answer me?

P/S: I'm not generalizing yah. I'm just writing it as a woman. If you are a man reading this, change the word "men" to "women".

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day, a day where all couples celebrate their love. But in my opinion, everyone should celebrate their love everyday and not just on this particular day. I bet most of you out there think of the same thing too.

And it is stupid for guys to buy flowers for the girlfriends on this day where you knew that the florist is gonna suck your blood by charging a super high price on the flowers. You could really save the money and buy flowers on ordinary days instead. It will make it even more special to your girlfriend, just don't tell her you do this because you don't wanna have your blood suck by the florist. Hahahaha..

Happy Valentine's Day ♥

I Don't Understand And I'm Upset

Another 3 days to our little precious's fullmoon and another 13 days to the end of my confinement. This entry is nothing informative, I just wanted to rant because I'm upset. Very UPSET!

I don't get it. I really don't. I don't understand why some people like to take pictures of other people's baby so much? Like if it's their baby, it's understandable because they wanna keep track of how the baby look like day by day. But for friend's and families of the parents, how likely are they gonna look at the picture for the second time after they took it?

And I find it extremely rude for a person to take picture of other's precious without asking for the parents permission. It's like they owned it. What's so hard about asking, "May I take the photos of him?" It's not really that hard, but some people chose to do whatever they like and just snap snap snap away to their heart's content.

Call me superstitious but I refused to have anyone take our baby's picture until his fullmoon. Because the first time we took his photo, he had difficulties sleeping peacefully at night. In the end I'm the ONE who suffered through the night because my baby cried everytime I put him down to sleep. I have no choice but to stay awake the whole night and hold him so that he could sleep.

Call me an old thinker, but the baby is mine and I believe I have the right to say NO to anything which I think is no good for my little precious. Even if the superstition is NOT TRUE!

And I always think that as a parent, we have the PRIVILEGE to be our baby's every first. For example, THE FIRST PERSON TO TAKE THE PHOTO WITH MY BABY! And when others did that before me, I felt very upset! Who the heck gave them the right to do so? I'm hurt, very very hurt.

As if this is not enough, people chose to just simply post the photos on the internet. Heck, I myself DISALLOWED myself to post it on my blog despite so many requests from friends, fellow bloggers, forumers, etc. But some people chose to simply post it just like that, once again, WITHOUT asking permissions from the parents.

Is this the current trend? Like people are no longer need to ask for permission? You can now simply take anybody's stuffs without asking them first?

And if one likes to take pictures of other's baby so much, why don't they just go back and make one themselves?

Foods To Avoid When You Are Breastfeeding

This is something that you'll never know if you don't do research on the internet. Not even the doctor. They'll just tell you that you can eat anything while breastfeed as it won't affect the baby, but it's actually a lie.

When you breastfeed, what the mother eats affects the baby very much. The only information I had before I did this research is "I mustn't take ginger if my baby had jaundice". Other than that, I knew nothing and in the end I ate most of the foods that I should avoid if I'm breastfeeding my baby and in the end causing my baby to have discomforts.

So here is a list of foods that you should avoid if you wanna breastfeed. :)

1) Chocolate, cabbage, garlic, chillies - Mothers who took these foods while breastfeeding will cause the baby to have wind discomfort to their tummy making them cry non-stop. And from what I've read, CHOCOLATE is actually the worst of all four. So if you wanna breastfeed, BAN CHOCOLATES!

2) Citrusy fruits such as pineapple, oranges, tomatoes, grapefruits and lemons - Taking these will caused the baby to have nappy rashes.

3) Caffeinated drinks such as coffee and tea - It will caused the poor baby will have hard time sleeping. Eventhough they say that it's okay to take coffee in moderate quantity, my advice is not to take it at all.

4) Alcoholic drinks - This will make your baby to sleep a lot which is BAD because it will eventually making the baby sleepless during the night.

And please be reminded that what the mother eats actually changes the taste in the breast milk too. Like if you take too many sourish food, your milk will turned sourish. And if you take foods with coloring, for example, orange juice, your baby's urine will turn out more orangey than usual.

So if you plan to breastfeed, it's best if you do a research before you eat a certain things because it'll really break your heart into pieces when your baby is crying and as a mother, you don't know what to do to help your little precious.

Breastfeeding is good, but when you eat without thinking twice, it might actually turn bad for the baby.

090201 Nobody Told Me Breastfeeding Is This Hard

Today is the 17th day of my confinement. And my baby is 17 days old already..

That means I have't been showering and washing my head for the past 17 days. How do I feel? The first week was hard because I was feeling itchy all over my head. And during the night I would be sweating away like I just came back from the marathon as I'm not allowed to sleep with the fan on.

But as they say, everything needs time to get used to it. And it's right, after days of not showering, I feel normal again. My hair no longer gets itchy like before, and the nights are no longer as sweaty as before. Yay!!!!

Everything is getting better but there's one thing that I'm truly disappointed with myself.

Breastfeeding!

I was complaining that I got no milk previously. But now that I have plenty of milk, I can bring myself to fully breastfeed my baby. All the magazines and forums and websites that I've read through, everyone is saying how good breastfeeding is for the baby and mother. But no one mentioned that it's gonna be this tough!

How tough is tough?

Let say if I feed baby with milk formula, I need to feed baby once every 2-3 hours, and each feeding takes about 25-30 minutes.

Breastfeeding on the other hand, took about 30-40 minutes per feeding, once every 1-2 hours. Not only did my back ache from staying put in the same position for too long, my nipples sore too. :(

I know I sound like a bad mother but despite my patience in the beginning, in the end I gave up. don't mind sleeping for less than 5 hours every night but I totally gave up to Complete Breastfeed my baby. Haih...

But don;t get me wrong, I'm still breastfeeding him whenever he is not feeling full from drinking the milk formula. And I'm hoping that a breast pump would help make breastfeeding easier. I haven't buy one yet though. *sigh*

And before I end this post, I would like to give my RESPECT to all the mothers who had managed to complete breastfeed their babies..

R.E.S.P.E.C.T!

*Complete Breastfeeding = Only breast milk are given to the baby with no milk formula added.