How To Become A Good Daddy And Husband

Right after giving birth. this is normally how most first-time mothers will feel (at least it's how feel):

1) Lost of self confidence due to expanded waistline, hips, butts, etc

2) Feeling helpless around the house

3) Feeling tired and sleepy due to waking up at night when the baby is crying. Eventhough I only wake up for like once or twice at night, I feel dead tired already

4) Feel uncomfortable, smelly and dirty due to no showering for 30-40 days during the confinement

5) Being emotional for the slightest reasons

And here are things that a husband can do to help make the wife feel better.

1) Having a newborn baby in the house means a new excitement in your life. It is common that most new daddys would want to pay as much attention as possible to their little precious. But never forget that your wife needs your attention too. Whenever you are playing with your baby or just plain looking at your baby, give your wife a little kiss on the forehead or cheek or the lips. This little kiss meant a lot to your wife. At least she doesn't feel neglected.

2) Never ever CRITICIZE your wife by saying how smelly or dirty she is. NOT EVEN AS A JOKE! It's never her intention to not shower for weeks. Instead, tell her how beautiful she is and how much you love her once in a while to boost her self confidence (which is slowly fading out).

3) Help around with the housechores even if you have mother/mother in law/confinement lady doing it already. Help out with laundry, washing the dishes, keeping the house clean, banking, bills, etc. Never leave it until your wife has fully recover so that she does it herself. -_-"

4) Now that your wife in her confinement, there's no way the two of you could go out dating like usual. Even after her confinement period ends, with a new baby in the house, you'll be spending less time alone already. So to keep the relationship healthy, talk to each other every night before going to sleep. A 5-10 minutes talk will do. Tell her what you did that morning, share to her how you feel, etc.

5) Don't sleep like a pig whenever the baby cries at night. Try to wake up along with your wife eventhough you know nothing to stop the baby from crying. Newborns normally wakes up about 3-4 times per night, so even if you wake up once per night, your wife will pretty much be grateful already because she understands that you need to work the next day.

6) Learn up basic steps in taking care of the baby like feeding and changing the diapers so that it'll come in handy when your wife is not feeling well or super tired.

All these comes from my personal experience in becoming a mommy for the seventh day. Daddies, you might be tired from working the whole day and to help out around the house, but think about it, it's even more tiring for the mummies to be carrying the baby for 9 months and the to go through the birth giving process. And if my husband can do it, I'm sure all the daddies out there can do it too.

Happy Parenting :)

090117-090121 Confinement (Part 1)

After being discharge, the journey from the hospital back to our home was a painstaking one no thanks to Malaysia's bumpy roads. Each bump means being painful in the wound. And the sun was so glaringly hot I can't wait to reach home. Upon reaching home, I've faced another nightmare, I have to climb up 3 storeys of stairs to our home!



Reaching home was definitely a bliss as I didn't feel any loneliness. I think if I don't remember wrongly I went straight to sleep. But despite the un-loneliness, I missed the AIR-COND at the hospital. Our home was so hot and it's worst with mom not allowing me to switch on the fan. *sigh*

I remember crying for the first two nights.

One, because I feel helpless seeing mom and Fire being busy with the baby and the house chores but all I did was sleep. And seeing how Fire's able to talk to the baby so easily and I can't is overwhelming. In short I felt useless. Three, I cried because I wasn't able to breastfeed with the little milk that I have and a sore breast.

I think I almost have minor post-natal depression if not for having Fire around to cheer me up and to make sure that I am okay. Thank you byy ♥

After that things got easier. I think babies can really feel what the mom is feeling because he began to suck well. And now I'm a happy mom with milk (though not much). Hahahaha.. And since my little boyboy is not giving up on sucking a milkless breast to make the mommy happy, I'm not giving up to breastfeed him neither.

Right now the only uncomfortable-ness I have is.. I'm all sweaty, smelly, dead skin (daki) all over my body, my hair is full of dandruffs and I feel itchy. Haih~ I can't wait for this confinement period to end so that I can take a long nice shower...

090117 Day 3 At The Hospital

The night before I hadn't had much sleep too no thanks to my wardmate's super loud snoring! OMG she snores like a hippo and I am not joking. I bet even the ward next door can hear it. Since she woke me up at with her snoring 3am in the morning, I switched on my table light so that I'm not wide awake in the dark. And eh, she stopped snoring. I guessed she couldn't sleep with the light on because the table light actually brightened the whole room. Since she had stopped snoring, I slept peacefully with the lights on throughout the night. Damn she must have hated me.

I was woken up by the nurse at about 5am because she wanna take out the urine tube from my vagina. And the process wasn't as painful as I thought it would be too. I wonder if it's because of the painkiller effect? Not long after that another nurse brought my boy boy over for me to breastfeed him.

After that, I spent the whole morning staring at the wall. And at about 7am, I tried to get up from my bed and walked to the toilet. Oh man, it was very very painful at the operation wound. Went to the toilet to change my paddings and I dared not try to pee because I was afraid of pain so I dared not drink any water that morning.

Not long after that, Dr Lai, which is my boyboy's doctor came to tell me that my boyboy had jaundice and he needs to further check to see how serious it is. Upon hearing that, my heart sank. I was so scared and worried eventhough I knew very well that most infants have jaundice and it is very normal.

When I was about to get out from my bed to go to the nursery to see my little precious, my father in law came. We had a little chit chat and I almost cried when I told him that boy boy had jaundice. When they left, I walked immediately to the nursery and stood there just to make sure that my boy boy is alright. After standing there for about 20 minutes, a nurse came and ushered me to my bed saying that I shouldn't stand for too long and the doctor is on the way coming to do some checkup on me before I discharge from the hospital.

After the doctor had done checking my wound, etc, I slept on my bed worrying about boyboy's condition. And when I saw my mom, I couldn't help but cried while telling her about it. And when Fire came, he consoled me that everything is gonna be okay and told me jokes so that I stopped crying.

Fire then went to settle the bills while I changed myself to my own clothes preparing to discharge. And the bills amounted a massive RM 5,400-00!!!! *sigh*

After Fire ate the lunch served by the nurse, we went to bring our little precious home. I was relieved to find out that the jaundice was minor. The nurse taught me how to change, how to feed him but I think only 20% of what she said went into my brain because I'm focusing on my boyboy and I can't wait to bring him home.

On our way to the elevator, one of the staff brought me a wheelchair because I still can't walk much. And that was the first time I sat on a wheelchair. Half way to the elevator, I was stopped by a nurse. She asked, "Have you tried to urinate?" And I sheepishly told her no I didn't. And she shoo-ed me to the toilet to try urinating just in case I have any problem doing it. And how was I glad when I have no problem peepee-ing at all. Nobody knew how happy I was at that time. Rofl~

So that was my last day at the hospital.

My say about the hospital:

The doctors, nurses and services in Pantai Cheras Medical Centre (PCMC), as I said are excellent compared to many other private hospitals (from what I heard). They really cared and will do everything (to the extend of cleaning your private part!!!) to make sure that you are comfortable staying there. If you have any uncomfortableness, you can just ring the bell and they will come to you ASAP, normally within 1 minute. And most of them are really really helpful and friendly.

They'll take the initiative to help you, like what one of the staff did by bringing me the wheelchair and pushed me from the elevators to the lobby and to the car.

The foods served was not bad although it tasted a bit bland bu what do you expect from a hospital eh?

The only thing that I hated was the noises made by the visitors and no one seem to do anything to keep them quiet.

Overall, I wouldn;t mind going back there again for baby no.2!

090116 Day 2 At The Hospital

I hadn't have much sleep the night before. Waking up every 30 minutes. Every time I woke up to see the time, only 30 minutes had passed. And this went on until the the next morning. I wonder if it's the effect of the painkiller but my obgyn told me that I'll feel drowsy after the operation..



A nurse came to clean my body early in the morning and then another came to bring me my breakfast. After that another came to check my body temperature and heart beat as usual. After that another brought me my boyboy for breastfeeding. Argghh.. Still no signs of milk from my breast..

Fire and mom came soon after that and as usual we chit chat chit chat a little bit before Fire left to do some "important" things.

I spent the whole day sleeping, chit chatting with mom and more sleeping.

Later at night, the usual peaceful environment in the hospital suddenly turned chaos with a lot of people talking loudly outside my ward. It's like the hospital had transformed into a night market like that. Furthermore, my "wardmate" wan't being considerate with her family members talking so damn loudly to each other on the next bed.

I was so cranky and fed up I shouted to the "wardmate" to close the door because it was very noisy. And they seem to catch what I meant and talk softly after that.

Munn a.k.a Evil Evie came visiting for the second night.. Thanks Evie~~~ Next time you give birth I also go visit you every night har..

After that my boss, Erin came with her husband and baby too.

Everyone left because the visiting hours is until 9.30pm only. But Fire and mom stayed on because family members are allowed to stay until 10.00pm.

A nurse then came with my baby boy and I tried to breastfeed him again. Still no signs of milk so I rang the bell to get the nurse to bring my baby boy back so that they can feed him with formula. But the nurse scolded me for giving up so fast and urged me to breastfeed him longer. So I did what she told.

After a few minutes of breastfeeding my wound started to feel painful. I have no choice but to give up and rang for the nurse again telling her that I cannot breastfeed any longer because I feel very painful at the wound area.

Not only the nurse took away my baby boy, she got Fire and mom to go home because it's already past 10pm. And they have no choice but leave me alone again.

That night I felt very emo and cried because I feel so alone. In pain and alone. Mom and Fire called to console me but still I feel very lonely. I just wanna go home.

That night, I cried myself to sleep.

090115 Finally, The Day~

That morning we went straight to register for my admission.

And we went straight to the maternity ward. I was once again brought into the labor room and was once again strapped into the CTG machine. And after a while my obgyn came.

She put her finger into my uterine to break the waterbag and told me a bad news.

The colour of the water was brownish in color (it is supposed to be clear) which means my baby had passed motion in my tummy. And I have no choice but to do a C-Sec to deliver the baby.

I was lost, I dunno what to do because I really wanted to give naturally because C-Sec means double the money double the pain and maybe triple the healing the process.

But after discussing through with Fire and my mom, we have no choice but to go for C-Sec because giving birth naturally at this time would be too risky for the baby. We don't want to take the risk.

I cried, I cried so hard thinking why does things always go differently as planned?

I started to have suspicious thoughts over my obgyn and the hospital. I suspected that they did all this just to make us agree on C-Sec because that way, they would earn double compare to natural birth.

I cried even harder thinking about the pain that I'm about to go through. I was afraid.

The obgyn and midwife assured me that it will be not be as painful as what I thought it would be. Assured me that sometimes doing C-Sec is a better option compare natural birth.

After calming me down, the Anaesthetician came to explain to me what they'll do so that I don;t feel pain during the operation. I was going to be given injection at my back so that I am numb from waist down. It means, I'll be awake throughout the whole process.

In my mind, I've started to imagine how I'm going to look at the evil doctors and nurses cut trough my tummy to bring the baby out.

On my way to the operation room, I cried again because Fire and my mom were not allowed to go into the room.

In the operation room, the Anaesthetician explained to me every steps that he is going to take. From how he placed a pice of clothes behind my back to he was gonna poke the needle behind my back. And OMG I've always scared of injections.

I felt numb right away right after he injected something into my back.

After that, I was moved into another room where it looks like the place where people are cut open in Grey's Anatomy. I tried to close my eyes and sleep so that I don't have to see what is going on around me but I can't. I was WIDE AWAKE.

Fortunately, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. They actually put a cloth in front of me so that I can't see whatever is happening down there.

My obgyn explained to me on every step that she was going to do with me. And the Anaesthetician were besides me asking me how I was feeling all the time to make sure that I'm okay.

I didn't feel any pain at all, and by the time I heard my baby's first cry I still thought that they were on the way putting the urine tube inside me. -_-"

I miraculously felt asleep after the midwife showed me my baby and his genitals.

When I woke up, they had done cleaning me up and was ready to move me into my room.

On the way to my room, I saw Fire and my mom and I knew that the nightmare is over and my baby boy has come out into this world safe and sound.

There's still no pain and I can barely move my legs. I was feeling really hungry but I was told not to take any food yet because I might throw up or something. So the nurses got me to drink plain water.

When I'm in my room (1005B), I was once again wide awake with no feeling of sleepiness at all. I told Fire and mom the process in the operation room, how they took out the baby without me realizing it at all. How everything is done with NO PAIN.

The services in Pantai Cheras Medical Centre (PCMC) was excellence. The nurses came every 20-30 minutes to check my blood pressure, body temperature, my wound and also the padding (as my mentrual started already) to make sure that I feel comfortable.

After like 1-2 hours, I got the nurse to take the Energy Bar from my bag. And I started eating my first meal! No vomiting, Thank God!

After that, I started eating dinner like normal.

The first time I really see and touch my baby was when they brought him over for breastfeeding. YES! I'm going for Complete Breastfeeding but the first day, I got no milk at all. I just let my boyboy sucked my nipples as they say, his suckings can stimulate my breast to produce more milk. ^^

The feeling of holding my own baby was unexplainable. It's like.. I dunno how to explain it but the feeling was really good. I felt really grateful that our baby turns out to be so beautiful and active and most important of all, healthy. It worth every money that we spent, every pain that I've gone through, everything.

090114 The Day?

This morning we went to the hospital all prepared to welcome the baby into this world.

We went straight to the maternity ward and a midwife brought me into the labor room. I was first strapped into a machine to do a CTG checkup. (CTG is done to check the baby's heartbeat and at the same time the uterine's contractions during pregnancy)

After about 30 minutes strapped to the machine, the midwife told me that my uterine's contraction is not wide enough for me to give birth yet so I was told to see my obgyn to see what she says.

My obgyn did the same thing she did yesterday which was inserting her fingers into my uterine to check the width of my cervix.

She told me that it was wider than yesterday but not width enough to deliver yet.

And I was asked if I wanna wait or I am all prepared to give birth already.

Since all of us had prepared for it, we told her that we don't mind giving birth now.

So that's it! I'm really giving birth on the next day.

That day, I didn't go to work. I told my boss that I'll be giving birth the next day. And she was very excited for me too and kept asking if I got feel any pain yet etc. I spent the whole day on the pc since I won't be able to use it for days.

I feel the contraction pain throughout the day and it continued through the night. It was mild and yet very painful. The pain is short. It's like someone poking you with needles inside the tummy.

And as usual, we have very little sleep that night because we would be seeing our little prince in a few hours times.

090113 The Last Weekly Checkup

Fire brought me to the hospital for my weekly checkup as usual. And my obgyn took my weight and we did some scanning as usual.

After that, for the first time, my obgyn checked how width is my cervix's open. It was a really painful experience. I asked my obgyn this after she's done checking.

"Is the sign of me giving birth as painful as this?"

My obgyn said, "NO! It's much more painful than this one."

My heart eventually skipped a beat when she told me this.



After the check up, I went back to work as usual.

While at work, I felt a bit comfortable at my down there. I thought it was only some normal vaginal discharge, I went to the toilet to wipe it clean only to find out that I was bleeding. Not brown spottings but fresh blood. And a lot of it.

I told Fire over MSN about the blood and I called the obgyn to find out what should I do next. And I was told to admit into the hospital the next day!

That night, after work, me and Fire rushed around to for our last minute preparations. Thinking that I'll only be giving birth in February, there are still a lot of things not done.

That night I couldn't sleep well at all and it got me thinking -->

OMG!!! I'm giving birth tomorrow!!!

Our Baby

Baby Is Now 6 Months Old~

Decision Made

Baby Is Now 2 Months Old!

I Realised..

090226 On Being A Fulltime Mother

090201 Nobody Told Me Breastfeeding Is This Hard

090117-090121 Confinement (Part 1)

090117 Day 3 At The Hospital

090116 Day 2 At The Hospital

090115 Finally, The Day~

090114 The Day?

090113 The Last Weekly Checkup

A New Chapter

Signs That Your BF Had Turned Gay

You are out dating with your boyfriend as usual and you found out that instead of checking the girls like what normal boys do, your bf are actually checking out the GUYS. And you realized that recently this bf of yours had been giving you a lot of excuses on not going out with you and instead chose to go out with a friend name Daniel.

You tell yourself that maybe your bf and this Daniel are working on some projects thus spending more time together. And you think that having your bf hanging out with a guy is better than him hanging out with the girl. But you may be WRONG~ Because your bf may be a Gay in process or he is already having fun with his Gay Gay partner (GGP) behind your back.

Here are some signs that your bf is joining the GGP gang~

1) Like above, you found your bf checking out the hunks instead of the chicks

2) He renews his long expired gym membership and out of sudden goes to the gym as often as he has his dinner

3) You caught him talking on the phone for hours and found out that the number belongs to a guy name Daniel. Not convinced, thinking that maybe your bf had saved the number of a girl with a guy's name, you called the number and to your amazement it belongs to a GUY!

4) You see him looking nervous everytime you mention the name Daniel even if you are only talking about the singer, Daniel Powter

5) He goes out with this Daniel guy more than he goes out with you

And last but not least, the ultimate sign that he is REALLY into GAYdom with no turning back is....

6) You caught him kissing Daniel at the back of the street (just like a scene from the movie 'Brokeback Mountain')

So if your bf offended 3 out of these 6 signs, it's time to watch out for signs number 6! Good Luck.

Here are some reasons why some men turned gays despite having a gf:

1) They are all the time since young attracted to the same sex but are scared to reveal it to their family thus have a gf just to avoid family's suspicious

2) After trying on the keys, they found out that they find it more enjoyable than the locks

3) They watched too much Brokeback Mountain

4) Their gf turned into lesbian and they do it for the sake of revenge

I can't think of anymore reasons so I think that's about it.

P/S: Please be informed that I have nothing against the homosexuals, this is purely entertainment or as they say it's for the lulz~ Have a nice day.

Restoran Foh San Sdn. Bhd.

Restoran Foh San Sdn. Bhd. is one of the most famous dimsum restaurant in Ipoh and Fire was sweet enough to brought me and mom over to Ipoh to give it a try last week while we were on our back to KL from Penang.

Our initial plan was to wake up at 5.30am, get prepared and leave our home in Butterworth at about 6.00-6.30am so that we could reach the restaurant at about 8.00-8.30am to avoid the crowds.

But as usual, things don't always go as planned and we end up waking up at 7.30am and left the home at 8.30am.



And by the time we reached the restaurant it was already 10.30am! And oh my the place was so crowded. And you can actually see hungry people waiting by the table with people eating away so that they can take their seats when they are done.

Since everyone is doing the same thing, the three of us went about and did the same thing too. We eventually went to the less crowded side with less people waiting as I don't wanna be push around like the dimsum cart.

After looking around, we settled down and waited by this table which was seated by a few old @$$****s.

These bunch of old creeps are the most SELFISH humans I've ever seen in my life!

Why??

They weren't eating, they weren't talking to each other, one of them were there reading the newspaper, the rest were sitting there looking around and yet they sat there for HOURS EVENTHOUGH A PREGNANT LADY WAS STANDING RIGHT BESIDES THE TABLE OBVIOUSLY WAITING FOR THEM TO LEAVE! @#%%@#%@#%@^#%@^%#@^

I wouldn't be so furious if they were actually eating but NO they weren't they just hogged that stupid table as if they wanna make it their grave. (Yeah they were old enough to die!)

I was like standing there for about HALF AN HOUR like a fool, yeah like a STUPID DUMBASS FOOL and they wouldn't bulge their ass for even an inch.

After we got our seat from the next table, we had our dimsum with me busy cursing the old men hoping that they will slip and fall so that I could LMAO at them for being so selfish!

And guessed what??? After we finish eating, these bunch of creeps still sat there.

I mean WTH?!?!?!?!

It's like they are gonna sit there until the restaurant close or something. OMG! I still can't believe that anyone could be this selfish and inconsiderate especially old people who are old enough to die like them. Even some youngsters in KL are more considerate than them!



People in Ipoh!!! Please convince me that all you people in Ipoh the state famous for it's beautiful girls are not as inhuman as the old men that I've seen there because from that day onwards, I really hated Ipoh and I don't think I feel like going back there again.. Not even for their famous Taugeh Chicken.

IPOH AH PEK SUCKS!