It is now 7.18 a.m and I just got back from Butterworth, Penang. And if you have been following my blog, you would know that I go back to Butterworth once every two weeks to spend time with my little baby boy.
When I first decided to have my mom takes care of my baby while we work in Kuala Lumpur, my biggest fear was not being recognized by my baby. A lot of people told me that if a baby doesn't see a person everyday, he'll forget who that person is and will treat that person like a stranger the next time they meet. Eventhough that person is his parents. But they were WRONG! SO SO WRONG! And I'm here to clarify it.
It has been two months since months since my baby is at his grandma's house and everytime I go back I see a similar thing.
The first day at my mom's house, baby will be all cheery and active and you could see him laugh, roll around the mattress that my mom bought and placed in the middle of the living, laugh and laugh and laugh everytime we call his name.
The second day, he would also be his active self again until when he sees us packing our bags getting ready to go back to KL.
He would then keep really quiet and just lie down on the mattress and sometimes would look up at us when we were having our dinner. And normally I would finish my dinner quickly so that I could hold him for a while before I leave. And he would just sit quietly in my arms. There'll be no smile or laughter from him no matter how we call his name.
And when it's time cfor me to go, I would pass him to my mom and he will grab my shirt and I would know that he's not willing to let us go.
Everytime I leave my mom's house, I'll be crying because I feel so bad, feel so so bad because my baby has to go through such sad emotion at his young age. I'm such a bad mother.
And my mom will tell me that my baby will keep on looking at us until our car is no where in sight. And that night when we leave, he will continue to lie on the mattress quietly until his grandma put him to sleep. And sometimes cried until he slept.
I'm not crating any stories just to be dramatic. It is that obvious. Babies and children now are really really smart unlike us in our generation.
If you have an option, take care of your own babies instead of leaving them to the maids and the babysitters. Taking care of baby is a lot of fun once you get used to it. If only my husband earns a lot every month, I would really love to become a fulltime housewife.
Baby, mommy is sorry.
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I think what they meant is that babies tend to be closer to their caregiver and not their parents, especially if you still keep this up when they are older and in their toddler years.
Personally, I feel that grandparents should be grandparents - not parents all over again - and that it's our job as the parents to care for our child no matter how tough it may be.
Perhaps that's why I cannot bring myself to let my parents take care of Eva - this and other reasons are why I'm a SAHM (hubby isn't on an expat salary like what people would think - just a local measly salary - you don't need to be super rich, just thifty, that's all).
My parents did push for me to send Eva to them and be a weekend mum like yourself but I told them no, if I want children, I'll care for them myself. They insisted, stating that since other people were doing it, why not me? I just went "Coz I'm not 'other people'".
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