Life As A Daughter In Law

Have you ever found yourself complaining about how your parents love to nag endlessly? How they always make you do things that you hate. How they always stop you from doing things that you love. How they never seem to appreciate those good deeds that you've done. How they critisize the way you look. I'm very sure that all of us are guilty of complaining about our parents. But let me tell you something, if you think being a daughter a hard, being a daughter-in-law is harder.

*to the guys, change the word "daughter" to "son" because being a son-in-law is nothing easy too.*

One thing for sure, if you don't like what your parents do and say, you can always talk back at them (which is actually very bad) but you can never do so to your parents-in-law. Talking back to them will only results in hatred from the whole family.

You talk back to your mother-in-law (MIL), MIL complains to Aunt A, Aunt A complains to Aunt B, Aunt B complains to Uncle C and it goes on and on. And as you know, when a story spread from one person to another, it will somehow be exaggerated. One small thing will turn into a bigger bigger deal when it's passed to one and another. Funny isn't it?

And parents-in-law will always side their children first eventhough they are the one making mistakes. For example, after dinner, their son can just eats and leaves the plates on the table and walks off and nobody would say a thing. But if the daughter-in-law does the same thing, she will be labeled as lazy, ill-mannered, disrespectful, not-educated and the list goes on. And the best part is, it will also be spread to all the aunties, uncles, gradparents and sometimes to the neighbour next door too.

Sometimes, they never really think on behalf of their daughter-in-law when it comes to doing things they think which is right. For example, one would asked the daughter-in-law and their son to paint the whole house because the house they are living now is in a bad condition. Their intention is good, but the problem is, they do not realised that paint fumes is bad for the daughter-in-law who is a few months pregnant. So I'm pretty sure if it was their own daughter, they will think twice beforehand.

Parents-in-law will never know about the good things that the daughter-in-law does for them. Either they don't know or they never bother to know or even if they knew, they just shrugged it off. But when the daughter did anything wrong, she will be labeled as a bad girl.

But if we look at the big picture, it's actually fair too in a way where your parents will love you more compare to your husband. Will side you no matter what compare to your husband.

I consider myself pretty lucky as I do not have any major problems with my in-laws.

So to all the parents-in-law out there who treated their daughter-in-law badly, please take note that you have children too and I'm sure you won't want them to be treated badly by their in-laws. As they say, what goes around turns around.

And too all the daughters out there, you can complain and rant all you want, but honestly, no one will loves you the way your parents do. Appreciate them before it's too late. ♥