It now 3.09am in the morning when I am typing this. Tears were streaming down from my eyes while I was typing this entry.
And it is because I had just found out that an unmarried couple had made a decision to abort their 1 month old embryo because they think that it's the best for everyone. Please proceed to the link to read about their story.
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/973476
I do not know the Thread Starter (TS) and I do not know who his gf is. But my heart somehow feel the pain and I feel really uneasy that they are gonna end the life of their own child soon. The embryo is now 1 month as I had mentioned earlier. 1 month old. As I told them in the forum, in 2-3 months, the embryo is going to form in a human shape and after that the wife will be able to feel the embryo's movement in her tummy already.
The boyfriend said, it's for the best because they are not financially stable enough to have this baby. And the gf's mother is right now very ill and is she is to find out that her daughter is pregnant, she would have a stroke and die.
I said, these are all lame excuses to get out of this problem easily. I told them, they have yet tell her mother about it, why are they so sure that her mother is gonna react like how they thought she would be? There are 50-50 chances that her mother will end up very happy because she's gonna be a grandmother soon.
I told him, financial problem. They still have 8 months to work and save for the baby. Aren't 8 months enough?? They just need to save RM600 each month and by the time the wife is due to give birth, they already have RM4.8K in the bank. And if the husband is willing to work harder, they can even save more than that.
I told him, if one is hardworking and determined enough, nothing is impossible when it comes to finding a job. Think about it, even those handicappeds are able to secure a job in the current economy.
I told him, abortion does not only affect her gf/wife's health but she will also be mentally effected. And that she is at risk of not conceiving at all after she does it. Isn't it harder to tell her mom this,
"Auntie, I'm sorry but your daughter will not be able to conceive anymore because she had once did an abortion. You have no chance to become a grandmother anymore."
compare to,
"Auntie, you are going to be a grandmother soon! Your daughter is pregnant and we are going to get married soon!"
I really hope that both he and his gf/wife reconsider their decision.
I would like via this entry to ask for help.
If you are reading this and you are Lowyat.net's member, please click on that link and advise him to reconsider their decision. Tell them anything so that they face this problem like an adult and not being a coward. Tell them whatever stories that you've heard of regarding abortion.
If you are not a member, please sign up and leave them a comment too. It only takes less than 10 minutes for the registration.
Please help me to change their mind.
Here is the link again,
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/973476
And it is because I had just found out that an unmarried couple had made a decision to abort their 1 month old embryo because they think that it's the best for everyone. Please proceed to the link to read about their story.
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/973476
I do not know the Thread Starter (TS) and I do not know who his gf is. But my heart somehow feel the pain and I feel really uneasy that they are gonna end the life of their own child soon. The embryo is now 1 month as I had mentioned earlier. 1 month old. As I told them in the forum, in 2-3 months, the embryo is going to form in a human shape and after that the wife will be able to feel the embryo's movement in her tummy already.
The boyfriend said, it's for the best because they are not financially stable enough to have this baby. And the gf's mother is right now very ill and is she is to find out that her daughter is pregnant, she would have a stroke and die.
I said, these are all lame excuses to get out of this problem easily. I told them, they have yet tell her mother about it, why are they so sure that her mother is gonna react like how they thought she would be? There are 50-50 chances that her mother will end up very happy because she's gonna be a grandmother soon.
I told him, financial problem. They still have 8 months to work and save for the baby. Aren't 8 months enough?? They just need to save RM600 each month and by the time the wife is due to give birth, they already have RM4.8K in the bank. And if the husband is willing to work harder, they can even save more than that.
I told him, if one is hardworking and determined enough, nothing is impossible when it comes to finding a job. Think about it, even those handicappeds are able to secure a job in the current economy.
I told him, abortion does not only affect her gf/wife's health but she will also be mentally effected. And that she is at risk of not conceiving at all after she does it. Isn't it harder to tell her mom this,
"Auntie, I'm sorry but your daughter will not be able to conceive anymore because she had once did an abortion. You have no chance to become a grandmother anymore."
compare to,
"Auntie, you are going to be a grandmother soon! Your daughter is pregnant and we are going to get married soon!"
I really hope that both he and his gf/wife reconsider their decision.
I would like via this entry to ask for help.
If you are reading this and you are Lowyat.net's member, please click on that link and advise him to reconsider their decision. Tell them anything so that they face this problem like an adult and not being a coward. Tell them whatever stories that you've heard of regarding abortion.
If you are not a member, please sign up and leave them a comment too. It only takes less than 10 minutes for the registration.
Please help me to change their mind.
Here is the link again,
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/973476
6 comment(s) on "A Life Is Gonna End Soon"
That's sucks. But ultimately, it is a choice that they can choose to make. It is their baby and it is their right to choose.
All we can do is to advice and give alternative views, if they weight everything together and decides a path, we should be supportive, shouldn't we? After all, they will know their situation more than anybody else.
Don't use the 'baby has rights too' argument. If that's the case, each cell on your body is just as important. Then why are we killing it by eating rubbish, smoking and drinking poison every weekend?
replied =( sigh.
It's never easy bringing a child into the world and knowing you can't afford to give him/her a better life. So don't judge them too fast.
Hi saewei,
Have to agree that fella is taking the easy way out, what a convenient way.
Have you noticed that some of the posts in that thread has been removed, especially at the end? I have a feeling it's one of the LYN mods who are involved in this.
Just before the guy closed the thread, he mentioned the trauma that they and parents have to go through because of the 'pregnant b4 marriage ' stigma. so it's Ego 1, Baby 0.
His last post were removed.
hallothere,
No wonder I couldnt find about the family problem part. This is sad man... really sad..
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