High Expectations

Mr. 9pek9bo blogged about the same thing a few weeks back and now I find myself facing the same thing. High Expectations~

This is one very common thing that had happened to everyone of us.

When young, during our studies, our parents expect us to get a good scores in our studies. When we got a B, they expect us to got an A in the next exams or tests. When we got an A next, they'll somehow expect us to get full marks in the papers. And if we failed to maintain the As and get a B, they'll felt trully disappointed and somehow managed to make us feel bad.

I pitied some children where their parents expect them to be at their best when they are still in their young age. Some were sent to kindergartens as young as 2. Some were sent to to learn piano, violin, art classes, drama classes, arithmetic, language classes, swimming, tennis, etc all at once. And when the child failed to show any good results as they weren't interested or simply not ready to absorb so many things at such tender age, the parents will once again feel disappointed because their children is not as perfect as they want them to be. It's no wonder, the suicide rate of young children are increasing every year.

When you are into your adulthood, your boss expects you to do more than you are able to and more than what you've been paid too. If you aren't able to comply to what the boss had expected, he'll make you feel like you are the most useless person in the world.

In your marriage, your husband and in-laws will expect you to be a wonder woman. You are expected to have ahigh paying job so that your husband is not the only one who provides food on the table. At the same time, you are expected to be fulltime housewife that does house chores and cooks everyday.

When I first got married, I was asked, "Do you know how to cook?" And my answer to them is yes because eventhough I'm not a good cook, I'm very proud of myself for being able to prepare a decent dinner for my husband during the weekend and my off days. But now, I was asked a totally different question, "How often do you cook?" I was totally surprised because I never see that coming.

I am now expected to cook everyday. I told them that by the time I reach home from work, it'll be almost 9pm already. But it wasn't acceptable to them because I have plenty of time in the morning to cook because I start work at 10am. And if they can do it, so can I. I'm upset, very upset because no matter what I do, it'll never satisfied them. I'm sure that if I really wake up early everyday to cook, they'll somehow expect me to do something else next. God damn it! It really sucks!

But luckily, I have one understanding husband that will never expect me to do anything that I don't want to and I'm very grateful of that.

I'm still wondering what they'll say if I was to tell them that I hate cooking and I despised the kitchen. Will they have lower expectations on me?

Anyway, I love this picture, thank you Mr,Injured a.k.a Nathan (eh who took it ah??)